00;00;00;00 - 00;00;09;29 Unknown That's. 00;00;09;29 - 00;00;31;19 Unknown And higher and higher and. 00;00;31;21 - 00;00;56;09 Unknown If you dig the twisted, admired the outlandish, and are enamored by the unusual, you're in the right place. True crime, the supernatural, the unexplained. Now you're speaking our language. If you agree. Join us as we dive into the darker side. You know, because it's more fun over here. Welcome to Total Conundrum. 00;00;56;09 - 00;01;08;01 Unknown One. Someone's first move. Born forward. Courtroom. Scarborough. This discussion is advanced. 00;01;08;01 - 00;01;15;11 Unknown For our listeners who might not be familiar with your work, how did you get into the world of spiritual communication and mediumship? 00;01;15;11 - 00;01;27;18 Unknown Well, it started really early, when I was, when I was a teenager, 13 years old, my grandfather, who died, appeared to me like seven months after his death and scared the daylights out of me. 00;01;27;18 - 00;01;29;11 Unknown And I long story short, 00;01;29;11 - 00;01;40;11 Unknown my mom had the ability. She was afraid to use it. My grandfather, who appeared to me, had the ability. I learned all these things. Of course, after I told my parents what happened, And then I tucked it away, 00;01;40;11 - 00;01;44;15 Unknown I didn't, you know, I went to college, I was pursuing a career and all that stuff. 00;01;44;17 - 00;01;48;25 Unknown In 2005, I had a puppy that was tragically killed by a car. 00;01;48;25 - 00;02;05;25 Unknown When I was walking him, his leash opened, and, he blew the doors off my abilities again. He taught me how pets communicate from the afterlife, and I, in turn, have written books. One of my series of books to teach people how their own pets are communicating from the afterlife. 00;02;06;02 - 00;02;33;17 Unknown And then it went into back into people. Paranormal investigations and so forth. Okay. And I remember hearing on one of the podcasts you had said that your grandfather, when he appeared, he actually appeared in full color. He he did, he did so that. Yeah, that's color. Yeah. Well, I'm colorblind, but, you know, but it was, it was in color, which is odd because, I, I'm also in my day job. 00;02;33;19 - 00;02;38;25 Unknown I was until I retired ten months ago. Unfortunately, I was a meteorologist. So 00;02;38;25 - 00;02;55;01 Unknown as a scientist, I have to explain everything in terms of energy and how energy is the foundation of the paranormal. And so when they appear in full color, they're at like peak energy. Otherwise they appear shadow figures. And and I explain all that stuff in my books. 00;02;55;01 - 00;03;15;27 Unknown But, so he was it at Peak Energy and it happened to be as I look back, it happened to be around the time of his birthday. And that's another thing that that my dog taught me. But this was his name that was killed by a car, that spirits who have crossed over will appear around birthdays, anniversaries and holidays. 00;03;15;29 - 00;03;16;15 Unknown Okay. 00;03;16;15 - 00;03;34;19 Unknown That's, I would think I've heard that before, too. Kind of like the the memorable events type things. Yes. And and the reason for that is because in the physical, they're always with us during those times. And they want to let us know that they're still with us in spirit, celebrating. 00;03;34;19 - 00;03;41;27 Unknown So when buzz was talking to you, did he sound a little bit like Scooby Doo at all? 00;03;41;29 - 00;04;09;18 Unknown That oh, my dog comes back and sounds like Scooby-Doo retro. Yeah. No, he he was actually conveying. So when animals come to me, they will convey either words that they've heard and I can hear them as an English word, or they will convey pictures, or smells or visions of things that they saw or what they liked and so forth. 00;04;09;22 - 00;04;20;05 Unknown So that's how they come through to me. Okay. Yeah. Very interesting. I know I love to talk to Scooby-Doo, though, right? 00;04;20;07 - 00;04;44;11 Unknown There was, one podcast that I had listened to as well that, the dog was I can't remember if it was giving you images or, were words or whatever, but there was a it's one of its owners was a teenager who listened to Taylor Swift. Yes. Yeah. And it kept saying, Taylor, somehow you kept getting the message. 00;04;44;11 - 00;05;11;01 Unknown Taylor Swift, Taylor Swift, Taylor Swift, pretty swift. And then when you had spoke to the parents or gave them the information. Yeah, they said that every day that she would go up to a room and listen to Taylor Swift. Yeah. Oh, you remember that story in detail? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, it totally blew me away. That, you know, here I, I'm doing a reading with the dog, and I'm like, why do I keep hearing Taylor Swift? 00;05;11;07 - 00;05;22;15 Unknown So that's I wrote it down and and as it turned out, there was a personal connection. So, I just did a reading for someone else, who lost a cat, 00;05;22;15 - 00;05;22;29 Unknown and 00;05;22;29 - 00;05;30;26 Unknown the cat shared with me, something about Ed Sheeran, and I had to look him up because I wasn't. 00;05;30;26 - 00;05;36;05 Unknown I mean, I've heard a couple of things by him. I'm old now. So, 00;05;36;05 - 00;05;42;03 Unknown the song perfect was what he told me to share with his mom, and, 00;05;42;03 - 00;05;51;28 Unknown she wrote me back, and she said, I live in the UK. I'm not, you know, I know who he is. I'm not a big fan of his, but when I looked at the video, 00;05;51;28 - 00;05;57;14 Unknown one of the first things it stood out was a cat that was the same exact color of my cat. 00;05;57;16 - 00;06;09;16 Unknown Oh, wow. And the the lyric was that it was a perfect moment. So. Oh yeah. But it may not be a fan of Ed Sheeran though. 00;06;10;28 - 00;06;11;13 Unknown So 00;06;11;13 - 00;06;18;09 Unknown what is one of the bigger things that a lot of people will get wrong or misunderstand with mediums or mediumship? 00;06;18;09 - 00;06;30;29 Unknown Oh, they think it's like having a phone conversation with their mother, you know, and it's not, spirits can only communicate. It takes so much energy really, because energy is the foundation. 00;06;30;29 - 00;07;00;17 Unknown And and in order to communicate with us, they need energy. And I always tell people that it requires either physical energies like heat, light, water, electricity or emotional energies and the emotional energies that spirits have cross over use is love, faith and hope that empowers them to communicate. Earthbound ghosts are a different story, although they use the same physical energies, they use negative emotional energies like fear, anxiety, depression, and anger. 00;07;00;17 - 00;07;13;06 Unknown They are those fuel a ghost. So I would do a ghost tank right up. Yes, you are a battery. Okay. Yeah. 00;07;13;09 - 00;07;18;12 Unknown Yeah. So when? When. So spirits rely on unlove and help and so forth. And, 00;07;18;12 - 00;07;23;13 Unknown you know, we always have a love connection to those we that we have in spirit that, 00;07;23;13 - 00;07;29;17 Unknown unless you have a love hate relationship with someone you know, in spirit, that's trying to come back to you and ask for forgiveness. 00;07;29;17 - 00;07;35;17 Unknown And I can't tell you how many times that happens. Not with pets, though. Not with pets, only with people. 00;07;35;17 - 00;07;54;05 Unknown So I forget where we were going with that. Just basically what's the, one of the most misunderstood things with mediums? Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's not it's not a direct conversation. It's images and one word answers and, feelings. 00;07;54;07 - 00;08;22;02 Unknown Okay. Emotional feelings. So, like, with pets and like, the earthbound ghosts and stuff like that. So I know you gave a reference to or what is her name, the Long Island medium. Teresa. Oh. Teresa Caputo. Yes. Yeah. And somebody had asked you, like, if you're walking through the store, are you having people earthbound ghosts, people or pets trying to communicate with you when you're out in the, you know, the everyday life? 00;08;22;02 - 00;08;42;08 Unknown Or is it something that you need to try to channel and like meditate or something to have that happen? Yeah, that's a good question. So, it's only happened a couple of times that somebody has come through to me. Yeah. When I've had my guard down. But for the most part, with pets, I really have to focus. 00;08;42;08 - 00;08;59;12 Unknown And the way I do the readings is that I take a picture of the pet and their name and any questions the pet parent has, and then I have to connect with the picture for them and connect to their energy. So I have to do that in the privacy. My own home, in my office with the lights all off and soft music playing and so forth. 00;08;59;12 - 00;09;18;27 Unknown So, but somebody did come to me when I was on a cruise and it was this guy, and he was the uncle of a woman that was sitting like two tables away from us when we were at the cafeteria there or whatever. I won't forget it, because it was the first time somebody came to me in public. 00;09;18;29 - 00;09;42;22 Unknown And said, you need to go talk to her. And I'm like, she's going to think about the cage. And buddy. So I'm sitting there having breakfast with my husband, and I said, I'm getting a message from this guy named John, and he wants me to talk to that woman to two seats back. And he says, well, I'm going to get up and leave. 00;09;42;24 - 00;09;58;29 Unknown You go talk to her, Well, I did, and it turned out that, that John was her uncle that passed away, and he was a lawyer, and and he. Because he showed me Ivy growing up the side of a building to, say, Ivy League school and all this stuff. And, and so I'll never forget it. 00;09;58;29 - 00;10;18;15 Unknown And she came back to me later. She found me on the cruise, like two days later. And she said, I just want to thank you for the the really, moving message that you gave me. And I'm glad you weren't afraid to tell me. And I'm like, well, kinda, just a little bit. Yeah. That's, That would be crazy. 00;10;18;15 - 00;10;45;25 Unknown I know there's some people that say that they're, more into. You're actually the first medium that we've ever had on. We have another one scheduled for Saturday, but I've listened to. Well, I guess I can't say that because that, the recording we just did her stellar. Yes, yes, I forgot she is, we thought it was more ghostly, like, more paranormal investigators, but she is actually the medium on their team, so I guess I will. 00;10;45;26 - 00;11;18;09 Unknown I misspoke to that because that episode will come out before this one. But anyway, so I've, you know, seen a lot we watch a lot of, you know, different videos, YouTube, regulars, you know, ghost adventures, ghost hunters, you know, all of those. And you see the mediums and stuff on there, and everybody has a little bit of a different experience and a different talent and a different way of channeling and, like, there's that one that was on, 00;11;18;09 - 00;11;19;25 Unknown Portals to hell. Michelle. 00;11;19;25 - 00;11;46;01 Unknown She was with Jack Osborne, Jack Osborne. So she always goes in blindfolded because she doesn't want to have any influence from anything, and then she just reads what she's seen or feeling or whatnot, and they're just. I'm always intrigued by it. It just blows me out of the water. And I'm actually shocked that we've waited this long to have mediums on. 00;11;46;04 - 00;12;05;19 Unknown So one thing, one rule that I have is that I don't want to know anything about the property. All right. When when I belonged to inspired ghost tracking in Maryland, I worked for them for many, many years. And like 13 years, the manager would always tell us, one hour before we were supposed to be at a location. 00;12;05;19 - 00;12;19;18 Unknown She said, I calculated it'll take you one hour to get there. So here's the address. And I'm like, okay. And that's that's how we operated. So, and I like that. And now I've been, 00;12;19;18 - 00;12;30;26 Unknown since I moved, I moved to northern New England. I met this paranormal investigator who is amazing, and has a really unique angle on paranormal investigating. 00;12;30;28 - 00;12;56;10 Unknown Her name is Monique. Too soon? She is the only paranormal drag queen, and I love that she decided during Covid in, that she couldn't perform. So she decided to do her investigating for a change in drag. And it yielded amazing reactions by the ghosts. And she said that her very first EVP was at Wilson Castle, 00;12;56;10 - 00;12;59;15 Unknown and the EVP came out and said, he's a lady. 00;12;59;18 - 00;13;20;13 Unknown Oh my gosh. So yeah. So I've now done four investigations with her and every one of them have been absolutely crazy. My latest book is called Haunting of Marie Estate, which was with with her. And my next book is, one of my next books. January is called, The Haunting of Hunt Memorial Library, 00;13;20;13 - 00;13;25;05 Unknown which is the location where we had the book signing for the Emery Estate book. 00;13;25;07 - 00;13;35;13 Unknown And we did a public investigation afterward with 20 people, ticket investigation and there were three different ghosts there, and we had to cross, we had to cross one over. 00;13;35;13 - 00;14;00;23 Unknown But that comes out January 2026. That's awesome. And in the Emery Estates one, I remember the the excerpt that you sent to us, Monique was communicating with, around an eight year old boy that, you felt that she had really connected because she and her husband had a child around the same age. 00;14;00;29 - 00;14;47;20 Unknown They do? Yes. And, yeah. And their child is. So they adopted a child who, has some developmental disabilities, like learning disabilities. And, I really commend them for that. They're. There are two amazing parents to do that. I mean, I'm a a hands full with dogs. Okay. I'm not, but. Yeah. So it seems that, and and she has, especially when she's in drag, she has such, an amazing, caring quality that in several different locations that she's been without me even, a lot of, ghosts who are earthbound children will come to her to ask for help or comfort. 00;14;47;22 - 00;15;13;15 Unknown And and that's. And she's tried to do that. She's so she's really good with children. And there's a there's another team that she works with called the power clauses. Okay. You saw that she call them the power clauses. They're they're, Derek and Candace Feder. Candace is a medium. Derek is a tech guy. And they dress up like Mr. and Mrs. Santa Claus sometimes whenever there are ghosts of children in certain locations. 00;15;13;17 - 00;15;51;09 Unknown Okay, so that children will feel comfortable coming to them. So Mooney calls them the power clauses, although, you know, that's not really their name. Hopefully they live in a cold climate. Otherwise I would be hot. Yes. There in New Hampshire. Okay. So schedule your, investigations during certain times of the year. Yes. Fall and winter. So in all of your investigations that you've done, have you ever encountered a spirit that didn't want to communicate or gave you a hard time? 00;15;51;09 - 00;16;15;06 Unknown Yes and yes. So one thing before we go for it, I, in in my books, I decided that I was going to try and distinguish the earthbound ones from the ones that have crossed over, and. Oh, yeah. So, because they're the same, I mean, the same entity, their energy with memories, personality and knowledge of the life we lived. 00;16;15;09 - 00;16;34;15 Unknown But the ones that have crossed over are ones that I call spirit. Okay. Spirit is a much nicer, peaceful name. The ones that I call, that are earthbound, I call ghosts. Okay, so I know that a lot of people use the words interchangeably, but to me, they're different entities 00;16;34;15 - 00;16;38;24 Unknown because an earthbound ghost can only communicate in the place in which they chose to stay. 00;16;38;24 - 00;16;41;25 Unknown They can't come into our dreams. They can't, 00;16;41;25 - 00;16;52;13 Unknown communicate with someone that lives miles away. Spirits. Excuse me. Who have crossed over. And they can appear to you anywhere, anytime, any place in the world. 00;16;52;13 - 00;16;55;27 Unknown And I can give you an example of that, too. But, so. 00;16;55;27 - 00;16;57;24 Unknown So that's the difference between the two of them. 00;16;57;24 - 00;17;04;26 Unknown But to answer your question, yes, what I found is that, ghosts will choose who they want to talk to, 00;17;04;26 - 00;17;09;11 Unknown and they can read our energy. Just like just like the both of you can read 00;17;09;11 - 00;17;18;18 Unknown the energy of people in a big, crowded room. Okay. You know, did you did you guys ever walk into a room and, you know, smile at somebody or say hi that you didn't know? 00;17;18;21 - 00;17;35;14 Unknown Yeah. You know, and conversely, you're like, you look at somebody else and you're like, I'm not going there. All of them. Yeah. So you're reading their energy. And I always tell people that's what mediums do, and that's what ghosts can do and spirits for living people. 00;17;35;14 - 00;17;40;05 Unknown So, when we've gone on a couple of investigations, 00;17;40;05 - 00;17;49;06 Unknown there's, we went to the Linville Manor Inn in Maryland, and that's actually my next book, so nobody knows that yet. 00;17;49;06 - 00;18;10;12 Unknown But it's coming out October 1st, and here's a sneak peek of the cover. Oh, yeah, you're the first. Yeah, I've met them first. So it's coming out October 1st. And so when we went to the Linville Manor, there was a little girl ghost that connected to Troy Cline, who was one of the mediums and inspired ghost tracking. But she did not connect to me, 00;18;10;12 - 00;18;14;13 Unknown so she was much more comfortable with his energy than she was with me, 00;18;14;18 - 00;18;20;17 Unknown so yes. So they, they pick who they want to communicate with. 00;18;20;17 - 00;18;23;06 Unknown That's amazing. I love that. 00;18;23;06 - 00;18;38;15 Unknown So I will address the, the hostile ones. They've been few and far between. Fortunately. But one of, one of the most hostile ones was when I did an investigation in, in Maryland. 00;18;38;15 - 00;19;00;04 Unknown It was, Corky's Tavern in Maryland. And I walked into this, this historic tavern. And I felt very uncomfortable, and I, I sense there was an earthbound ghost. It was a man. And he was in one particular room, the room that used to be the big tavern area, if you will. And, I didn't feel comfortable there, and he wouldn't talk to me. 00;19;00;07 - 00;19;21;20 Unknown He just made me feel really awful. So, after the investigation, I said, okay, I'm not going back in that room. I'm done. And my the manager called me of the group and she said, I have to play. You have to play an EVP for you. I'm glad you didn't stay in that room. Oh, no, EVP said clearly. 00;19;21;22 - 00;19;48;28 Unknown Kill Rob. Oh, boy. Oh. Yeah. That's a friendly ghost there. Yeah. What the heck? Yeah. He was. Apparently he. I think that he murdered other people and, you know, and he was just nasty. So he there, he can stay, you know, for all I care. So think over time that, spirit or while spirit you said passes on. 00;19;48;28 - 00;20;04;04 Unknown So let's say earthbound ghosts. Do you think over time that they start to lose memory, that they, start to, you know, forget things or, and and start to 00;20;04;04 - 00;20;16;13 Unknown turn more onto the dark side or. I mean, I've heard people say that before and that I've heard other people say that that's not true. What are your thoughts on that? 00;20;16;15 - 00;20;27;05 Unknown Well, I think that they maintain their personalities, whatever they were. And for being being an earthbound ghost or being a spirit is timeless because there's no concept of time 00;20;27;05 - 00;20;41;25 Unknown in that energy form. However, earthbound ghosts can see, they can see the changes around them so they can see, like when people go in and out of a particular house or whatever or historic place, they can see that their wardrobe has changed. 00;20;41;27 - 00;21;03;09 Unknown You know, they nowadays they you walk in and everybody is on a cell phone and, and these ghosts from like the 1800s are going, what in the world is that? You know, why are they talking into that black rectangle? So they don't know, but they know that things have changed. I think they get bored and they get frustrated. 00;21;03;09 - 00;21;16;12 Unknown They get frustrated because after a while, after seeing all these, these physical changes, they realize they have been stuck there for many, many years. And that's when they want help crossing over. Okay. Yeah. 00;21;16;12 - 00;21;21;18 Unknown And what does the process of crossing over consist of? Like 00;21;21;18 - 00;21;28;29 Unknown what do us as humans have to do to help somebody of the Other Realm? 00;21;28;29 - 00;21;55;00 Unknown Passover, is we have to generate enough energy, like a living emotional energy. That's what we do. We combine our living emotional energies, and it takes more than one person to do it. So think of of ghosts again. Is a battery? Their energy when we first die, we are that the energy within us, coupled with that memory, personality, knowledge. 00;21;55;00 - 00;22;01;19 Unknown And then I look at a ghost as a battery. And over time, as you know, batteries charge dwindles 00;22;01;19 - 00;22;09;01 Unknown when it gets below a certain threshold. And I don't know what that is. They can't open a doorway to the other side and cross over and become a spirit. 00;22;09;01 - 00;22;17;21 Unknown So what we need to do is we need to combine energies from living people, emotional energies to focus on opening a doorway 00;22;17;21 - 00;22;33;09 Unknown and then what we do is we connect to the ghost energy and connect through the doorway to a spirit of a loved one that's crossed over, that's connected to them, and have that spirit come in to try and convince them to cross over. 00;22;33;11 - 00;22;35;15 Unknown Okay. And then 00;22;35;15 - 00;22;47;04 Unknown in all the crossings over that we've done, there's always been a burst of warm air out of nowhere. Okay. So, and warm air is fast moving molecules of, you know, of air, 00;22;47;04 - 00;22;48;04 Unknown conversely, 00;22;48;04 - 00;23;08;27 Unknown cold air like columns of cold air, because I'm a scientist, have to explain all this stuff. Right. So I always tell people that whenever there's a ghost and you feel a correspondence because they're taking the energy of motion of air molecules and they're absorbing that, and by slowing the air molecules down, it creates a cool spot, because slower moving molecules of air are colder air. 00;23;09;00 - 00;23;23;04 Unknown So, but that's what we have to do, to cross a ghost over. And the other aspect of that is that you have to sell them on it, you know, it. So 00;23;23;04 - 00;23;23;14 Unknown just 00;23;23;14 - 00;23;33;20 Unknown think about how paranormal investigators would go up to an earthen ghost and say, look, you don't know me, but I'm going to tell you what's best for you. 00;23;33;23 - 00;23;47;13 Unknown How would you cross me over to the other side? How would I cross you over to the other side? Yeah. First off, I'm going first. So I shouldn't have to worry about that. Okay. 00;23;47;13 - 00;23;55;08 Unknown I I'm thinking all it would take is a pan of brownies. I was just going to say, you know, their brownies are toasted, right? 00;23;55;11 - 00;24;05;07 Unknown There's unlimited brownies and donuts on the other side, you know? Yeah. Why would you say here. 00;24;05;10 - 00;24;27;05 Unknown We always fight about who's going to go first because, Yeah. Yeah, my husband and I do too, but, and, he always says he's going to go first. And I said, no, no, no, no, I mean, people live longer. Oh, no, I'm just kidding. I just, 00;24;27;05 - 00;24;30;10 Unknown it's, it's never an easy topic. 00;24;30;10 - 00;24;41;16 Unknown I mean, being living part of the living is not, you know, knowing that inevitability is coming. You don't know when it's coming or what, how it's going to happen or how you're going to react. And 00;24;41;16 - 00;24;53;08 Unknown it's hard. And then knowing that, you know, is there a heaven is there a hell is there, you know, what's the, you know, the purgatory, what's the whole process? 00;24;53;11 - 00;25;04;01 Unknown And there's so many different speculations on it and different beliefs. And so it's, you know, nobody truly knows really what's out there. 00;25;04;01 - 00;25;11;11 Unknown No. That's true. I mean, I, I only know what what spirits tell me. Right. You know, 00;25;11;11 - 00;25;17;21 Unknown most of them have told me that, hell is really being trapped as an earthbound ghost. 00;25;17;24 - 00;25;32;21 Unknown That's really what it is. Because if you think about it, nobody can hear you unless you're lucky enough that a medium comes in and out of the place. And how often does a medium go into a room? You know, where a ghost is? So that ghost 00;25;32;21 - 00;25;36;23 Unknown doesn't have a chance to to tell their story, to ask for help and so forth. 00;25;36;25 - 00;25;47;21 Unknown And it's like being trapped in an isolation ward for your entire eternity. That's been hell. That's hell. Yeah. Yeah. So. And they also tell me that 00;25;47;21 - 00;25;51;17 Unknown they've told me that, there were like three levels on the other side. 00;25;51;17 - 00;26;00;14 Unknown you either cross over or you stay or that those are your alternatives. And, and you pick where you want to go on the other side, level one, 2 or 3. 00;26;00;14 - 00;26;13;22 Unknown Some cultures say like Japan, I think there are they say there's seven levels of the afterlife. I don't know, and everybody has different ideas. Right. But, my aunt came to me and she was trapped on level one 00;26;13;22 - 00;26;22;18 Unknown after she passed. She passed in the early 80s, and she came to me. She appeared to me as a shadow figure, and she scared that, 00;26;22;18 - 00;26;25;01 Unknown you know, bejesus out of you. 00;26;25;03 - 00;26;43;04 Unknown And I'm like, and this was I, I when I moved to Kentucky, I went back to school to get my, my third degree, my degree in meteorology, and my aunt is at the end of my bed and I'm like, oh, hello. So she came to me and she said, I need forgiveness from your mom. 00;26;43;04 - 00;26;45;26 Unknown And I wrote about this in my first book, Ghosts and Spirits. 00;26;45;26 - 00;27;05;18 Unknown So my mom and my aunt had a love hate relationship, and my aunt had chosen the lower level of the other side, and she wanted to move up, and she wanted forgiveness from my mom because she used this. Apparently she would steal my mother's clothes and she would do other things. And you know what sibling doesn't do that for her, 00;27;05;21 - 00;27;26;25 Unknown I don't know, but, you know, they were from an Italian family. And you know, when you apparently I can say that I'm half Italian. So I asked my mother. I kept trying to get my mother to forgive her. It took 25 years for my mother. And finally to give it 25 years after she passed, after my aunt passed, 00;27;26;27 - 00;27;38;21 Unknown And I said, mom, look, I know you're Italian, I know you, and you know, Italians invented the word vendetta, but you gotta let it go. So finally, after my aunt kept coming to me, she said, okay, yeah, 00;27;38;21 - 00;27;52;13 Unknown I realize I have to forgive her. And then my aunt sent me a sign, a musical sign. She made one of my CDs, Skip, and it happened to be playing a song that the only song that always reminded me of her. 00;27;52;15 - 00;27;59;04 Unknown Oh, wow. Barbara mandrell song. I was listening to it and I said, look, if it before it even came along, I said, look, if you're if you're okay now, 00;27;59;04 - 00;28;08;14 Unknown if you've been forgiven and you know, you're okay and you're backed up to the next level, please let me know. And that CD skipped. Wow. 00;28;08;16 - 00;28;15;07 Unknown Yeah. And I said, do it again. She did it again. Oh, wow. And the next time I played that CD. Never skip to get 00;28;15;07 - 00;28;33;27 Unknown crazy. Yeah, it's crazy how those even just not even. I mean, it might be people communicating with you and it might not, but just the memories of things like that. A TV show or music or a certain animal or a certain sound. 00;28;33;27 - 00;28;42;10 Unknown And then it triggers those memories. And, you know, you'd like to think that your loved one is communicating with you and 00;28;42;10 - 00;28;44;16 Unknown We'll be back after these messages. 00;28;44;16 - 00;29;17;17 Unknown Hey conundrum crew. 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Available now. 00;29;52;26 - 00;30;00;01 Unknown While supplies last. 00;30;00;01 - 00;30;01;11 Unknown And back to the show. 00;30;01;11 - 00;30;22;28 Unknown but it doesn't ruin the seed, man. They all know it, put scratches in it. While you think about them every time you play it, and then there goes that whole forgiveness thing again. Oh no, no, no, it actually it played fine the next time. 00;30;23;01 - 00;30;32;14 Unknown Well that's good. Yeah. So I knew it was not a scratch. So I know you, you talked about how certain, 00;30;32;14 - 00;30;45;26 Unknown like, animals or spirit can come to you in dreams and when you're sleeping and stuff. When I'm. My mom passed when I was 14 years old. She was two years old. 00;30;45;26 - 00;30;50;11 Unknown And so that's that's for young, very young, very young. 00;30;50;11 - 00;31;18;12 Unknown And she unfortunately had leukemia. And it wasn't very known back then. And she was one of those that actually all of her siblings matched 20 tests down for the bone marrow. There was not a sibling that had a better match than the other. So she had three siblings that could have given her a bone marrow transplant. They couldn't get her into remission, so she'll think she only after being died. 00;31;18;14 - 00;31;38;28 Unknown She was diagnosed in May and she passed New Year's Eve that same year. It went very fast because she was misdiagnosed for so long too, because it wasn't a known thing. But as a teenager, I think I was like 16 or 17. I had a dream one night that she was coming to visit, 00;31;38;28 - 00;31;42;09 Unknown and in my dream I was furious at her. 00;31;42;09 - 00;31;47;19 Unknown I was furious because she left us for another man and she was still there 00;31;47;19 - 00;32;06;12 Unknown and didn't tell us. And after analyzing the dream, I kind of thought that maybe leaving for another man was maybe going to God and that she was still there, but it was more in spirit than it was in reality. So that was how I kind of analyzed my own dream. 00;32;06;12 - 00;32;17;08 Unknown But that dream has stuck with me all these years. Wow. And I don't know if it was truly her, if it was just myself trying to come to terms with it. 00;32;17;08 - 00;32;25;26 Unknown So dreams can be a powerful thing. Yeah, and it's actually the easiest way for spirit to actually communicate with us because, our logical minds are 00;32;25;26 - 00;32;27;08 Unknown asleep, if you will. 00;32;27;10 - 00;32;57;28 Unknown Right. And when we're awake, we're trying to think logically, but as a, as adults, most of us at least, yeah. So we try to dispel whatever we think are a coincidence. But I've learned that there's no such thing as a coincidence when it comes to spirit. Okay, so, for instance, they will, if you if someone you know has passed away, whether a person or pet and you are out somewhere, and you happen to see someone that looks like that, whether a person or a pet, 00;32;57;28 - 00;32;59;01 Unknown it's not a coincidence. 00;32;59;09 - 00;33;01;07 Unknown What it means is that spirit 00;33;01;07 - 00;33;11;29 Unknown led you to be at that particular place at that particular time, looking in that direction so that you would see someone that resembles them, to know that they are around you. 00;33;11;29 - 00;33;19;28 Unknown Wow. Has that ever happened to either one of you? Oh, I'm sure, I'm sure that it has, because there's been times where I've, you know, you think? 00;33;19;28 - 00;33;37;00 Unknown Yeah, for sure. Because yet you think that you see somebody and you're like, whoa, was that you know, or is that their doppelganger? You know, how about you, Jeremy? Have you ever experienced I've had that happen to. Yeah. Person or pet? Person. It's usually my grandpa. 00;33;37;00 - 00;33;37;12 Unknown So 00;33;37;12 - 00;33;42;08 Unknown were you close to your grandpa? Yeah. Very, very. That makes perfect sense. 00;33;42;08 - 00;33;58;14 Unknown So. And it can be anywhere in the world. When, And and I'll give you an example with a pet. When my dog buzz passed in 2005, I, we went on vacation, we went to Puerto Rico for the very first time. And, 00;33;58;14 - 00;34;06;10 Unknown I like telling this story because it's so there's so many components in this that led me to the right place. 00;34;06;12 - 00;34;20;12 Unknown We walked around all San Juan. Have you either. Have you been there? No, no. Okay. Well, it's a beautiful place. They have a rotary. There's a rotary near the old San Juan, and they're a fort. And you can choose to go one of five ways. 00;34;20;12 - 00;34;26;16 Unknown And we got there and, I felt nudged to go down one direction. 00;34;26;18 - 00;34;51;07 Unknown When we get to the end of the street, there's a dog walker who's walking several dogs, and one of them looked exactly like buzz that had passed away. And I heard dad. It's me. Oh, wow. And and he he said, it's today. And I thought, what's today? So I looked at at Tom and I said, what is today? 00;34;51;07 - 00;35;06;01 Unknown And he said, it's February 22nd. Well, that was the four years after buzz passed to the day. Oh wow. So buzz led me to another dog that looked exactly like him on the anniversary of his passing. Wow. That's crazy. 00;35;06;01 - 00;35;08;24 Unknown Wow. Yeah, I was just thinking about the whole 00;35;08;24 - 00;35;13;05 Unknown people thinking that they see somebody or whatever I have. 00;35;13;05 - 00;35;16;10 Unknown It's a good way to put it. I think I would 00;35;16;10 - 00;35;38;04 Unknown make that more interesting for people, because I am literally like my mom's twin. So when I went to Maura, where she grew up and where she passed, people would take double takes all the time as I was growing up. And actually we when my uncle passed away during Covid, 00;35;38;04 - 00;35;50;15 Unknown we were going through pictures and my, my uncle's brother picked up this picture and he was like, oh, look, Tracy, here's you and Danny, and Danny was my uncle. 00;35;50;15 - 00;36;12;05 Unknown That passed. I said, that's not me. And he's like, yeah, it is. And I'm like, no, that's your sister. That was my mom. And he was like, oh, stop it, that's you. I mean, we literally look that much alike that I even posted the picture on Facebook and was like, all right, who is this? This is this me or Julie? 00;36;12;07 - 00;36;28;14 Unknown And it was about a 5050. But I looked at the year on the picture and I was like, Bobby, there's no way I could have that could have been me. Because the time frame of the picture, I would have been like 12 years old. Wow. You know, oh, so I'm 00;36;28;14 - 00;36;29;12 Unknown that 00;36;29;12 - 00;36;32;03 Unknown spiritual bond for people, that doppelganger. 00;36;32;04 - 00;37;03;19 Unknown Yes. Yeah. So. So if one of your mom's friends is, is thinking of her at some point, and you happen to be in that same area and they see you, you will have been steered to that area at that time because somebody was thinking of her and they wanted that. Oh, that's they the masters. Yeah. They can, they don't, they can manipulate a whole bunch of things. 00;37;03;19 - 00;37;21;17 Unknown But yeah that's kind of, that's a really cool concept. And there is times that I have seen people or things, you know, that just you just kind of get that warm feeling and it's kind of like you just look up and you're like, thank you, I miss you, love you. Yeah. 00;37;21;20 - 00;37;43;09 Unknown Yeah, absolutely. So and they can send signs in in various ways to I mean, so they the other thing you mentioned puppet masters, they can they can also influence things in nature. And that's one of the things they do all the time. They're like birds and butterflies, dragonflies, rabbits, squirrels, groundhogs, all kinds of things. And I have countless examples of all that stuff. 00;37;43;09 - 00;37;43;22 Unknown So, 00;37;43;22 - 00;38;10;24 Unknown there have been a number of stories where people have gone to cemeteries, and cemeteries, in my experience, are not haunted. Because we haunt places that we know in life. And, you know, who hangs out in the cemetery during their life. Right. Although I will say it's a nice, quiet place to go for lunch when, you know, and we've done that and we've run out and I'm. 00;38;10;27 - 00;38;36;20 Unknown Yeah. So it is a, it's a nice place to go for lunch. And it's interesting because you get to see the history of people. But but sometimes when we go to cemeteries and we are paying respects to the people that passed who are in spirit, they may send us a sign. Like I remember reading, one woman who went to to her son's, gravesite, and he died in one of the wars, I think, the Iraq War. 00;38;36;23 - 00;38;39;26 Unknown And suddenly, there was a swarm of dragonflies around 00;38;39;26 - 00;38;47;16 Unknown the headstone and and dragonflies were one of his favorite things. And it was only around his headstone, nobody else's. 00;38;47;16 - 00;38;51;28 Unknown And when she started to walk away, they left. So she knew it was him. 00;38;51;28 - 00;38;58;20 Unknown Wow. Yeah. Very cool. That is really cool. Very. And also, some people say like cardinals. 00;38;58;26 - 00;39;26;22 Unknown Are you know, Cardinals are blue jays or, you know, anything. Robins. Yeah. All depending on what the person liked or whatnot. So if it's somebody's mother in law, they'll send a vulture, right? I have no kidding. My mother in law is amazing. I mean, I won the lottery. Yeah, yeah. Oh, I could be that about my mom, right? 00;39;26;25 - 00;39;48;13 Unknown I'm telling her it's kind of me, you know? So do you consider. Are you going to edit that out of the episode? Yeah. Yeah. No, I'm. I don't think that's in any way, 00;39;48;16 - 00;39;52;08 Unknown Oh, gosh. That's funny. So 00;39;52;08 - 00;40;11;06 Unknown Have you ever doubted your abilities or gone through a period of, like. I don't want to do this anymore. I just want to disconnect from this sense, because I know when you were younger, you kind of pushed it back. But as you've grown into your abilities, has there ever been a time where you're just like, I just I'm done with this? 00;40;11;06 - 00;40;16;03 Unknown Oh, yeah. Often. So 00;40;16;03 - 00;40;40;19 Unknown there's two aspects of what I do. So one aspect is going into haunted places and helping try to bring peace to the, the dead who are stuck and cross them over. And I never get tired of helping them. The other aspect is doing cat readings. I do those, I do those, on the weekend, and I do a limited number every week, but they take a lot of time and they take a lot of emotional energy. 00;40;40;25 - 00;41;03;18 Unknown And, a lot of times people don't realize that when mediums are doing readings, it takes our physical energy, our emotional energy, our mental energy. And it's exhausting. And, you know, a lot of people, everybody wants a personal reading every everybody and everybody wants a reading when their pet passes. And I get that, I get that, and I try, 00;41;03;18 - 00;41;15;23 Unknown But sometimes I get to the point where, oh, my gosh, I'm wiped out. I just, I need a break from this, but I can't. I have, I have reading scheduled out for a year 00;41;15;23 - 00;41;26;09 Unknown and every week and you know, I can't I can't take that break, unfortunately. You know, even if I'm trying to work on a book, I'm thinking, oh my gosh, I have a pet reading. 00;41;26;09 - 00;41;33;02 Unknown I have to do. So, it's very rare for me to sit and relax at night, 00;41;33;02 - 00;41;38;28 Unknown because I'm always doing things like podcasting. Yeah. So, Yeah. 00;41;38;28 - 00;41;47;26 Unknown So. Yeah. So sometimes I really wish I could just take a break from it. And I, you know, I've put readings on hold for a while, like taking appointments, but that's because they've booked out a year. 00;41;47;28 - 00;41;49;17 Unknown I'm like, okay, but 00;41;49;17 - 00;41;52;18 Unknown that doesn't give me a break, right? 00;41;52;18 - 00;42;15;16 Unknown That's, Yeah, I couldn't imagine. I mean, living every day life and dealing with every day's mundane tasks is hard enough. But then having to have that other side of things. And I know, like when I was younger, I had dreams a few times of things that actually came true and wow. 00;42;15;18 - 00;42;43;13 Unknown Yeah. So okay. And I think that might be part of the reason why I am so kind of like worried about going into places or, you know, crossing into doing like investigating and stuff like that. Because I do believe that I have more of, sensitive ability. I don't say I'm not saying I'm medium or psychic or anything like that, but I grew up in a home that was very active. 00;42;43;16 - 00;42;45;16 Unknown And then as you know, 00;42;45;16 - 00;43;09;10 Unknown but prepubescent, you know, middle schooler having dreams of things. And even in high school, I had a dream that came true. And they were dreams about other people and, you know, things that had happened. One was somebody getting into a car accident and very badly injured, and I dreamt I knew it was going to happen two days before it happened. 00;43;09;13 - 00;43;26;02 Unknown So when my mom woke me up and told me I had already known that, you know what? What was going to go on that day that I had to get up? I had to take care of this. This person's children. Or my mom went to the hospital and another one was, you know, later when I was a teen. 00;43;26;02 - 00;43;46;24 Unknown So I think that I have that little bit of sensitiveness. So I think that's why I'm afraid. And I've had a ghost follow me home once. Oh, gosh. Yeah, it was a very often, but it was a child. But and I was able to get her to go back where she was. But I was scared shitless. I didn't sleep for like three days. 00;43;46;24 - 00;43;59;22 Unknown You sure? Well, she probably attached herself to you thinking that you could help her crossover. Maybe, but I didn't find her parent, I was afraid. Yeah, no, I would to. 00;43;59;22 - 00;44;06;11 Unknown Wow. So, yeah, to imagine having that ability on at all times, knowing the emotional 00;44;06;11 - 00;44;19;00 Unknown turmoil. Like, anytime I do have a dream about somebody. Like I had a dream that our dog Harley, I took melatonin one night and I have a dream that I watched our dog Harley, get hit by a car right outside of our house. 00;44;19;00 - 00;44;40;01 Unknown And this was probably a couple of years ago. And ever since then, I have been terrified that that dream would come true. And I have not touched melatonin since. Hahaha. Good idea. Wow. That's scary. Scary. Yeah. But 00;44;40;01 - 00;44;44;07 Unknown you are sensitive to the energies of the other side. So, you know, 00;44;44;07 - 00;44;46;08 Unknown you do have medium abilities. 00;44;46;08 - 00;45;07;09 Unknown You can call them medium rare if you want. Yeah. You can, like, I used to call myself a medium rare before I started, like, really believing what I was doing. But, yeah, it it is. It is scary. Some of the things that happened to me, too, that whenever I do readings is they will share the pain of death with me. 00;45;07;11 - 00;45;29;27 Unknown Oh, yeah. And that's not me you want. Oh, wow. So I felt, I felt heart attacks, I felt cancer, I felt kicked, punched, stabbed, shot. I with pets, I'd feel kidney failure and heart failure and I feel lung problems and breathing problems and back legs. My spine will hurt. My legs will feel numb. 00;45;29;29 - 00;45;32;23 Unknown Like if they're if they're paralyzed, 00;45;32;23 - 00;45;48;15 Unknown or something like that. I went to the Bird Cage Theater in tombstone, Arizona, and, I have a book about that one, too. I made 11 ghosts there, and one shot me in the chest. Another one shot me in the throat. I was shot in the throat because that's how he died. 00;45;48;18 - 00;46;08;18 Unknown And he shared that, And so. Yeah. So I felt all of these crazy things, and it knocks the wind out of me, actually, literally knocks the wind down. And then I have to recover. It takes a couple minutes. So, yeah, the the bird cage theater was a crazy experience. 00;46;08;18 - 00;46;14;28 Unknown And by the way, one thing I didn't mention is whenever I go on these investigations, I will sometimes sketch what the ghosts look like. 00;46;15;00 - 00;46;17;18 Unknown I saw that in that excerpt that you sent. 00;46;17;18 - 00;46;38;08 Unknown That's very cool. Yeah. So. And and usually, whenever I go on these investigations, the, the homeowner has said that that's who they've seen in their house. So why proving it? In, in one of them, there was a, the ghost I think, was called the Steelworkers ghost chapter in my case files was by ghost tracking. 00;46;38;10 - 00;46;43;05 Unknown I sketched this guy, he was, balding. He was kind of, 00;46;43;05 - 00;46;45;23 Unknown heavy in the face, and, 00;46;45;23 - 00;47;02;29 Unknown after I sketched him and I showed the picture, the homeowner said, yeah, that's the guy. We've seen. The tech team who came in the day before sent me the infrared camera image later for the report, and it looked exactly like the pictures I had drawn. 00;47;03;01 - 00;47;15;29 Unknown And that's in the book. And that freaked me out. Yeah. So yeah, on. You're very a very talented artist as well. The dog. I, was a little boy and 00;47;15;29 - 00;47;29;17 Unknown too soon. Well, what's her command of the gray suit? No, the little boy in that. The Everleigh mansion at Emory. Emory. Emory state. Yeah. Yes, yes. The other ghost we ran into was the man. 00;47;29;18 - 00;47;50;28 Unknown I call him. The man in the gray suit. Okay. And I sketched him out to, Oh, yeah. Yeah, that was the. That was the investigation with Mooney. Too soon. But. Yeah. So. And I have to tell you that the reason I, I started sketching them when I was a kid, I always wanted to grow up and be a superhero if I did. 00;47;51;00 - 00;48;11;18 Unknown So I started working out when I was 17, and, And I never stopped, but, I always started to draw. I started to draw my own comic book characters and make my own comic books, and that's how I learned to draw. My mother was teaching me how to draw, too. And, and that has come in handy now in paranormal investigations, for sure. 00;48;11;18 - 00;48;35;19 Unknown Yeah. I wish I had a fraction of that kind of talent I could not have. Now I figure, yeah, if I stick figures sometimes look sick to, you try to draw, but I just, you know, being a lefty, you think I would have. I have other creative abilities. Scientists I haven't been able to hone in. Especially people. 00;48;35;19 - 00;48;52;02 Unknown People are really hard for me. Like getting the, you know, by I'll try to draw somebody and they'll end up looking like, what's the guy from Goonies? Fourth. 00;48;52;04 - 00;48;57;03 Unknown You go. 00;48;57;06 - 00;49;15;02 Unknown Oh. Here's a portrait of you for your birthday. Oh, here's a closet photo. And for my heart. By myself. I can't get your eyes straight. 00;49;15;05 - 00;49;42;23 Unknown All we can do is try. Know. That's exactly. Yeah, exactly. What has been the most rewarding moment of your journey so far? Bringing a lot of healing to people who lost pets. People whose pets passed away. And, one of the things that I do, too, is that I came up with this idea, like, seven years ago is to go to animal rescues and do a lecture. 00;49;42;25 - 00;50;05;13 Unknown I do a 45 minute to 1 hour interactive lecture about how pets communicate from the other side. And sometimes when I when I will bring up a sign, I will ask people in the room if they've ever experienced that experience. That and they will raise their hands. And then I will have them tell their stories. And it is so emotional. 00;50;05;13 - 00;50;11;16 Unknown It is so healing. As as other people in the room, of course, can 00;50;11;16 - 00;50;30;02 Unknown connect with that. They, they can identify with that same sign or something. So every time I do this, it's, it's really healing and it's super emotional for me now because I have five dogs in spirit. And, we just lost one three weeks ago. 00;50;30;04 - 00;50;43;15 Unknown Oh. I'm sorry. Yeah, he was he was a dachshund, and it, we lost him to an aggressive cancer that took him four days after his diagnosis. Oh, mine. Yeah. 00;50;43;15 - 00;50;43;28 Unknown But, 00;50;43;28 - 00;50;51;29 Unknown And he was my boy. He was my best, and I. My heart is empty right now, but we have two others, 00;50;51;29 - 00;50;53;08 Unknown that I love so much. 00;50;53;08 - 00;51;04;23 Unknown So I'm. I'm healing right now, and I'm still trying. And actually, since he passed, he's actually come through to me to help me do readings for other people in the interim, 00;51;04;23 - 00;51;10;29 Unknown because I have all these readings that I have to do. And I'm like, I don't know if I can get through this. And then Tyler will show up. 00;51;10;29 - 00;51;21;00 Unknown My dog Tyler will show up and he'll say, I'll help you, dad, I got you, dad. Yeah. Oh. So do you think 00;51;21;00 - 00;51;25;14 Unknown mediumship can be learned, or is it something you're born with? 00;51;25;14 - 00;51;29;13 Unknown I think it's both. Okay, so I do know that 00;51;29;13 - 00;51;33;18 Unknown it's genetic. It's in one side of the family or the other or both. 00;51;33;21 - 00;51;57;16 Unknown I know my mom had it. My grandfather. Her father had it. One of his cousins or my mother's cousins had it. And so it ran in my mother's side of the family. But we can learn. We really just have to be open minded. We it's really about learning the way that spirits communicate. And so that's why I wrote. 00;51;57;24 - 00;52;23;26 Unknown That's why I wrote my books. So I wrote my books to teach people how spirits of loved ones communicate, whether they're human or animal. Okay? Just trust your feelings. Trust your feelings, Lou. Because that's what I always say from Star Wars. You know, I am not your father. Got that whole Mandela thing. No, no, no, no, it drives me crazy. 00;52;23;29 - 00;52;48;02 Unknown What's your thought on that? You think that the world was rebooted, or do you think it's just people misremembering? Oh, remember misremembering what, the Mandela Effect? I haven't even thought about it, to be honest, with. Oh, yeah. Oh, that's a good topic. Oh, my gosh, head to head on that one. Now, I haven't given it any thought at all. 00;52;48;03 - 00;53;05;09 Unknown I'm too caught up in all this other. Yes. Yeah. So you got a lot going in that craziness. Why don't you let us. So let's not talk about your books and stuff and some things that you might have coming up in the future. 00;53;05;09 - 00;53;13;21 Unknown Sure. Do a little recap on that. Okay. So I've got, I've now, I now have four series of books. 00;53;13;24 - 00;53;38;01 Unknown Wow. I just decided to break one series apart into two different series. So I have the pets in the afterlife series, which teach people how to how their pets communicate from the other side. And they're filled with stories, like of how pets have communicated, and readings that I've done that have been, approved and confirmed by their pet parents to let me share them. 00;53;38;04 - 00;53;59;05 Unknown And each chapter has a picture of the pet, so you know who I'm talking to. So there's that. There's four of those, and then there's a ghost versus spirit series, the Earthlings versus the ones that have crossed over. Okay, then there's ghosts on the Mediums Vacation series, because when I go on vacation and my guard is down, I want to enjoy the vacation. 00;53;59;08 - 00;54;27;04 Unknown Dead people say, no, no, no, no, no, you need to tell my story. Oh, wow. So there are three in that series right now England, Ireland and the Birdcage Theater. Oh, wow. And I have, I'm working on a Scotland one and, other places in the US. Those are two more in that series coming. And then my fourth series that I just launched is the one with Mo'Nique called The Haunting of Series. 00;54;27;04 - 00;55;00;08 Unknown It's about different places we have investigated, the Emory estate, the Hunt Memorial Library in New Hampshire, Nashua, New Hampshire. Right. And, we just went to Wilson Castle in Vermont. That was insane. And and then we did another investigation on a farm. And that was also crazy. Wow. So, so that series is going to have, at least for, I'm sure, a lot more. 00;55;00;10 - 00;55;04;25 Unknown Actually, there is an event coming up in April 00;55;04;25 - 00;55;24;06 Unknown where Monique has asked me to be part of her team in Atlantic City, new Jersey. We're going to, do an investigation in a haunted lighthouse. Okay. Very cool. Yeah. So, watch. People can watch my website or Monique too soon.com, because she's the one that's organizing it. 00;55;24;08 - 00;55;47;14 Unknown Okay. And it's going to be ticketed to the public. So the public can there's going to be a limited number of people from the public. They can go on it. So there's that, I've got a lot of lectures coming up for animal rescues. One in Massachusetts, one in New Hampshire. I've got library lectures. I teach, adult ed courses and paranormal stuff. 00;55;47;17 - 00;56;09;28 Unknown In two schools in southern Maine. I thought you said you were retired. Well, that's why I retired. I'm 30. Raleigh, prairie towns or anything like that. I do power cons, too. I did the Connecticut Parrot con recently. I did the Pennhurst power con in May. I'm doing the power con in Salem, Massachusetts in November. 00;56;09;28 - 00;56;21;00 Unknown Yeah. I'm tired. Yeah, I'm tired just listening to it. I mean, I thought we had a lot going on, but. Wow. Yeah, but I, I, I love it. I mean, 00;56;21;00 - 00;56;22;18 Unknown I do what I do to help, 00;56;22;18 - 00;56;24;27 Unknown people understand how, you know, 00;56;24;27 - 00;56;34;12 Unknown the afterlife works as far as I can see. And, and by the way, I always tell people that because I'm a meteorologist and I base everything in the science of energy. 00;56;34;14 - 00;56;40;09 Unknown If people are of any religion, they can apply their religion to the science of energy. 00;56;40;09 - 00;56;47;19 Unknown Yeah, yeah. And if they're not, they don't need to. But, you know, some people have said to me, well, you know, 00;56;47;19 - 00;57;04;01 Unknown my God, looks down on mediums and I'm like, well then don't don't get a reading, right? I mean, if you're if you're struggling with your religion, but you want to get a sign from somebody, you have to decide whether or not what's the most important thing in your life? 00;57;04;03 - 00;57;29;01 Unknown Is it your relationship with your loved one that you want messages from, or is it your religion? Right, because one way or the other, you're going to either take out anger against yourself or the medium or something else and and that's not healthy. Just know that mediums, genuine mediums are here to help bring comfort to people who passed. 00;57;29;04 - 00;57;48;13 Unknown Right? And that's why. And that religion battle I grew up, in between, a very Catholic family, and the other half of my family was Jehovah's Witness. Oh, good gosh. Wow, wow. I had not, had a lot of religion in battle. Yeah. Hahaha. Yeah. 00;57;48;13 - 00;57;56;10 Unknown So I'd say when they come to our door. Oh my gosh. No no no. 00;57;56;13 - 00;58;24;16 Unknown That that. Yeah. They battle with some of that because I have two aunts that still practice and the rest, most of their children have converted back. So just not being Jehovah's Witness. But then I had one, one of my cousins that's about my age, decided to go back into the religion and started blowing up. He hadn't talked to me in years, and now he's blowing up my phone, sending me all these passages and stuff, and I'm like, I love you. 00;58;24;18 - 00;58;46;09 Unknown And if you want to talk to me, I'm here. But I don't need these these links and these websites and all of this, you know, just just talk to me as a person. I don't need to talk religion just to talk, you know? True. You can always tell them that you, will be happy to direct an earthbound ghost to their house so that. 00;58;46;11 - 00;59;13;01 Unknown Exact. Yeah. And I'll tell you a story later. So was there anything else that we haven't covered that you would like to cover? Oh my goodness. I could talk to you guys for hours, but, just know that that our loved ones in spirit are always going to be guiding us and, and giving us signs, and we may not see them. 00;59;13;03 - 00;59;31;03 Unknown Don't be upset if you don't see signs from your loved ones. It's not that they're not trying. It's just that you're not seeing them. And, and the other thing is that when it comes your time, make sure that you cross into the light. Do not choose to be an earthbound ghost because it's a really, really bad idea. 00;59;31;03 - 00;59;39;10 Unknown And the easiest way, if you've lost a pet or parent or anybody, the easiest way for them to communicate is to ask them to come into your dreams. 00;59;39;10 - 00;59;51;13 Unknown And don't be upset if they can't, because grief is a negative emotional energy spirits or positive emotional energy. If your grief is intense, it's much stronger in energy than they can. 00;59;51;20 - 00;59;57;03 Unknown They can generate from the other side, so they can't come through your dreams until you cope with their passing. 00;59;57;03 - 00;59;58;15 Unknown It's very good advice. Yeah. 00;59;58;15 - 01;00;17;09 Unknown So if anybody wants to get a reading from you or get in touch with you, how can I. You, I'm online, I have a website. I have social media. Like an epidemic. You know, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn threads. 01;00;17;11 - 01;00;39;19 Unknown There's so many blah, blah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But Rob gotcha.com. Or if you can't spell my last name, pet spirits.com goes to the same place. Okay. And there's is information there about readings and lots of videos and this interview and everything will be there. And links to everything in our show notes as well, so you guys can find them. 01;00;39;22 - 01;01;02;00 Unknown Well, Rob, I can't thank you enough for joining us. Jeremy, did you have anything else you wanted to ask before we leave? I think I'm good. I just need to go buy some books now. Yes, definitely. I'm excited to get into reading else. Well, well, thank you. And for those who like murders and other kinds of mysteries, too, because I know you. 01;01;02;03 - 01;01;24;17 Unknown Yeah. No, no, no, I have no I the one that does all the true crime stories. Yeah. That's where that's where I mentioned this. So the case files of inspired ghost tracking has the double murder ghost investigation in it. And that was a tragic story that ties both the paranormal and the murder mystery stuff together. That's perfect for our listeners. 01;01;24;20 - 01;01;41;20 Unknown Awesome. I love it. Well, thanks again for joining us. And this has been so informative and so fun. Well thank you. Yeah, yeah. All right Rob, thanks a lot. Have a great day. All right. Thank you. Bye bye. 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Keep on keepin on, motherfuckers. 01;02;40;18 - 01;02;46;26 Unknown You. 01;02;46;28 - 01;02;51;02 Unknown And. 01;02;51;05 - 01;03;12;03 Unknown Now it's time to have. 01;07;52;17 - 01;08;23;24 Unknown All right. We should be good. So you were talking about the. Is that the one that they have the para con? Was that the one that they have at, Oh. What asylum is that? Pennhurst. Pennhurst. Yes. Yes. Yeah, I would not. I would love to go to sometime. Oh, you should, you should. I was, it was they actually asked me because the, the guy that organizes it, had a couple of dogs that passed away, and they did a reading for him because I'm also a pet medium. 01;08;23;26 - 01;08;49;03 Unknown And, so he they invited me for the first time, and, it was amazing. There were 6000 attendees on Saturday, 4000 attendees on Sunday. Oh, wow. It was crazy. Yeah. Yeah, that one would be a really cool, cool place to go to. It's one that's on. Definitely on our bucket list. We want to go. Well, I should say more. 01;08;49;03 - 01;09;14;26 Unknown Jeremy than me. He wants to go to Waverly sometime. To, trees. You would spend a lot of time in the truck? Yeah, I would also spend a lot of time in the truck. Oh, wow. I love everything spooky. And I love the researching it. Talking about it. We put on a big haunted house every year for the community, but I just don't like being scared. 01;09;14;26 - 01;09;36;09 Unknown I'm trying to get over it. I want to go on investigations. We have, met some great people in the field, and some people are local to Minnesota, too, that we have the opportunity to maybe go on a few investigations with them. But I gotta put on my big girl panties first. Yeah, it it can be crazy. 01;09;36;12 - 01;10;05;19 Unknown I've I've done I've been doing investigations now for 15 years. Wow. Yeah. And so I have, I have written 12 books. I've got two, actually, that are coming out within the next five months. Wow. So, yeah. Well, before we get too far into this, let's, take a step back and let's, for our listeners, who might not be familiar, familiar with your work yet, how did your journey into the world of spiritual. 01;10;05;22 - 01;10;12;01 Unknown Boy, let me just start that over. That was a total nightmare. That tongue twister, total tongue